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KATHMANDU, Dec 16 2009 (IPS) - Bhagwati Adhikari was a teenager when she was married off to a village boy of the same caste. Just a few years later when she was in her early 20s, she became a widow. Her husband, who worked as a security guard in Kathmandu, was murdered. Adhikari was left alone to support her family.
When Bhagwati got married, she was just starting eighth grade but had to quit school when she moved to her husband’s family. Her in-laws would not let her study. When her husband passed away, she had to find a way to support herself, so Adhikari looked for jobs but soon realised she had no skills.
She also understood that with her husband’s death the way society viewed her had also changed. Hindu customs in Nepal forbids widows from wearing shades of red. “I had to wear only white and it was pretty obvious that I was recently widowed,” recalls Adhikari.
“Neighbours and friends stopped talking to me, men made indecent advances, I wasn’t allowed to be around during religious ceremonies because widows are considered bad luck – it is not easy to be a widow in Nepal,” she says.
She knew she had to fight the battles alone and she couldn’t do that without education. She ignored her parents and in-laws’ objections, and went back to school in her native Kahbre district, west of Kathmandu valley. Adhikari flourished in high-school and as soon as she finished she found a job with Women for Human Rights, an organisation that works with widows to empower and fight for their rights.
Widows like Adhikari are humiliated; organisations who have been working with single women are shocked and women rights activists are outraged.
“We have worked so hard to end discrimination against widows, and have had small successes,” says Lily Thapa, founder and president of WHR, “but when the government makes a decision like this, it takes us many steps back and proves how insensitive policymakers can be.”
For many years WHR has been pushing the government to provide pension to all Nepali widows.
Rekha Subedi, 31, was widowed when her husband was killed during the ‘People’s War’ by the Maoists. Subedi is outraged, “Now I feel like there’s a price attached to me, how can the government think this step will empower widows like us?” she asks.
Representatives of rights groups say that this latest decision puts pressure on widows to marry. “Marriage is a deeply personal decision, it is a choice an individual makes. Why is the government interfering by allocating money for remarriage?” asks Thapa. Activists lobbying for the elimination of the dowry system fear that attaching monetary value to marriage may propagate a different kind of dowry system.
“Policymakers seem to think that the women can only feel secure if she is married to a man – this is downright humiliating for us widows who have been living alone and supporting our families,” says Nisha Swar whose husband was abducted and later killed by the Maoists in 2002.
Advocate Kabita Pandey of the human rights group Pro Public says that the government’s decision will create dependency of widows on men and will make them more vulnerable to violence. According to WHR, the number of widows with children is far more than those without. A decision like this not only makes the women but also their children vulnerable to abuse and sexual violence.
“This is a country where fathers, brothers and close family members sell their sister, daughter, wife, to traffickers because of poverty – we have had cases of women being trafficked for less than 100 dollars. Traffickers can easily marry widows, collect their 666 dollars and sell the women off for more money,” says Pandey.
The government has no figures on the number of widows in the country. WHR has 44,000 members in 225 villages of Nepal – its work area. But there is no data on how many widows there are in the remaining 3,688 villages.
WHR, which has filed a writ against the government, prime minister, minister and ministry of finance in October, is now in consultation with Nepal’s planning commission, ministry of finance and other ministries and activists say that the meetings so far have been positive.
“We are working so that the provisions are removed from the budget altogether, that’s what the widows want,” says Thapa. Women’s rights activist say that if the government tries to push through with the decision they will intensify their pressure and protest from the streets.
“This issue is not going to go by pushing it under the rug, we are united, and we’ll fight until this humiliating policy goes away,” says Swar.
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